Friday, February 29, 2008

Best Recipes, Food and Favourite Spots

I love food… and I really love talking about FOOD. :D
You can ask my colleges… they know. Infact, It’s everyone favourite topic. Don’t tell me that you have never come across a Penangite who doesn’t love to talk about food. If you haven’t... then go terjun Penang Bridge. That’s your last spot!

Well, I want to post more stuff about food. I came across this interesting site about the best food places in town and it kinda inspired me to write about My Favourite Food Spots *wink*
Well, We have alot of interesting food places here in Penang and I think it will be great to expose them. Besides, I think it's good that we talk more about places we can find good, affordable halal food.

So! Look out for it. Hehehe… tapi janji kena rajin update la. :p

I'll try my best :o)~ Peace

Taare Zameen Par

I have only one word to describe after watching this movie... BEAUTIFUL
This movie is one of the best hindi movie I’ve ever watched. I really love this movie! I actually cried when I watched the ending. It’s truly a magnificent production by Aamir Khan. Well, some people might find it abit dull and slow but for me, this movie is really touching and meaningful. It depends on what you expect to see in a movie actually. If you prefer to watch action, thriller, suspense kinda movie, well then you might find this movie boring cos there’s no fighting or any romantic scenes in this movie :)
It's a story about a boy named Ishaan and how he looks at the world differently. For Ishaan, words in textbooks dances and he really have difficulty getting himself adjusted at school. Unfortunately Ishaan's dreams and thoughts are just too much for people to handle... especially his parents. So, his parents sent him off to boarding school thinking that he need to be 'Disciplined' whereas, Ishaan only needed more guidance and attention. Once in boarding school, nobody noticed his hidden talent except for 1 man… Aamir Khan. Well, you guys should watch the movie to find out what happened to Ishaan next.
The songs are great especially the title Song "Taare Zameen Par" and also "Maa".

Well anyway, Check it out!
Here's the link : http://taarezameenpar.com/

Friday, February 22, 2008

Green Pasture

Look out! Here comes another Friday :) Don’t you just love this wonderful day of the week? Just look at how wonderful your Fridays can be at times. The warm embrace of the morning sun light on your face, the hustle and bustle of the streets… hrgh! And best of all… tomorrow… It’s Saturday :o) Tomorrow, the sun will come up… and it's a whole new day just for yourself.
Sigh! What am I talking about? I think I might have a plan lined up tomorrow. Well, I would consider it as a forced plan cos… I didn't make them. Usually, I will be just 'informed' to get myself involved and this happens quite frequently pulak. Imagine that! I think my mum is up to something and I can tell it by the look she gave me this morning. Mum gave me this sad, gloomy face and asked me “eh.. hang nak buat apa esok…” whereas she clearly knows that I don’t often go out on Saturdays. Hehehe… mak.. mak! my mum…She is great at using these psychological methods to get things done. But most of the time, she just gave me orders jer la. And I have no other choice but to oblige :p
Anyway, it doesn’t matter. I thinking she wants to go to kak Idah’s house tomorrow. Well, I don’t mind la besides I like going to her house too. Like it.

Got something interesting to share… I was chatting on the phone with this guy, Mr xx today. I usually talk to him on work related matters and he will usually liaise with me if there’s any that concerns paperwork. Well, today, our conversation got a little further then usual and I was just trying to be more friendly with him la. I mean, I talking to him most of the time, and today, I just ask him about himself, where he lives, what he do… stuff like that. Hurm… that guy was really exited and I ended up answering all the questions I thought of asking him. He even started to ask questions that I don’t wish to answer. Sigh! Well, I didn’t want to offend Mr xx cos, we still work with him and it’s important that we maintain a good relationship with people we work with… right?
Anyway, cepat betul dia bermesra dengan aku sampai aku naik tak senang hati. Maybe that’s how they’re suppose to me with their customers I think. He asked for my mobile no., want to take me out for lunch konon… want to drop by the office to see me konon… Creepy right! Then he asked if I can go clubbing with him, if I’m free today wanna meet konon… ??? What the… gosh! This guy is pushing too far and I was just being friendlier to him for like about… 10 minutes. I dunno… might not be a big deal for others but I find it abit awkward. So I just cut the conversation short, gave him an excuse and escaped. Then later I realize, what I was thinking?? He’s just trying to be friendly… and that might be his way of approaching people. Tue pun nak takut pulak. I need to start giving myself a break and start looking into other pastures :p
Hurm… hehehe

Well, Gotta go. Have to pick up Kak Sida at work..
Hurm…

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

I've Learned

I came accross this interesting thoughts today. Just to share it here..

**An Inspirational Thought... Motivational Thought**

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is to be some that can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
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I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
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I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
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I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
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I've learned that you can do some thing in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
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I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I've learned that you can keep going long after you can't.
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I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done regardless of the consequences.
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I've learned that money is a lousy way to keep score.
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I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
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I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
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I've learned that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
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I've learned that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
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I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
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I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

Monday, February 11, 2008

Tears In Heaven

Feeling the blues again. Sigh! nothing much to do in the office today. Everyone just doing their own business. Well, I was listening to Yahoo Music and they played this song from Eric Clapton - Tears in Heaven. I love this song so much. It's once of my favourite songs. The words are so beautiful and if you listen truthfully, I’m sure you will feel every word in this song. Especially the line "Would you know my name, If I saw you in heaven"... It bring tears to my eyes.


Eric Clapton - Tears In Heaven

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven
Will it be the same
If I saw you in heaven
I must be strong, and carry on
Cause I know I don't belong
Here in heaven

Would you hold my hand
If I saw you in heaven
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven
I'll find my way, through night and day
Cause I know I just can't stay
Here in heaven

Time can bring you down
Time can bend your knee
Time can break your heart
Have you begging please
Begging please

Beyond the door
There's peace I'm sure.
And I know there'll be no more...
Tears in heaven

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven
Will it be the same
If I saw you in heaven
I must be strong, and carry on
Cause I know I don't belong
Here in heaven

Cause I know I don't belong
Here in heaven
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:) I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone that can be loved. The rest is up to them ~ Quote from my collection...

Trust in love and trust yourself...

Chicken Corden BLeu

I’m back to work again after a good long restful 4 days holiday. Though I did not get much sleep during the weekend. I had to wake up early morning la but then again, I really had fun and enjoyed myself with my love ones. It feels great to be back to work actually. I was beginning to feel bored staying at home. And surprisingly I was very energetic la pulak this morning nie. I’m not quite sure why, probably because I had a glass of warm milk in the morning :p

Well, guess what I did during this holiday? On first day of Chinese new Year, We had a cookout and get together at Kak Ton's place. I cooked my favourite and famous Chicken Corden Bleu. Well, Kak Ton wants to eat it again. She said she really didn't get to enjoy the food when I prepared it last time ;) betol ke? Well, now that she has given way Shabby and Flabby (her 2 Persian cats), now her home smells a lot lot lot better. Hehehe…. Tak kalu, hish! Masuk rumah jer bau tahi kucing. But, I kinda miss those 2 cute faces actually.

Preparing the dish is quite tedious. Especially when you have to prepare the side dishes as well. If you prepare the Chicken only, tak la makan masa sangat. Preparing the chicken is not that hard. Just imagine the chicken breast, stuffed with mash potato mixed with almond, laid on top of sliced chicken ham and Mozzarella cheese. Hurm... so, when you cut the chicken open, the cheese will melt out. hehe. So, here’s how my Famous Chicken Corden Bleu looks like. It was served hot with Baby Potato Salad, Fresh steamed veges and Fried fresh mushroom with onions. He’s the receipe, in case you want to try it out.

p/s : Bila nak try nie Zaini? hehe... lama dah bagi recipe :p

CHICKEN CORDEN BLEU (serving for 4 person)
Preparing Chicken... The most simple way.

Ingredients
4 psc chicken breasts (halves)
4 slices on Chicken Ham (Beli yang 5 star nyer... they sell at Giant and cold storage)
1 tub of Mozzarella Cheese
1 big russet potato
1 cup cream
a bit of chopped parsley and daun ketumbar
Garam, gula, dried oregano or any other seasoning
3 tbsp of Olive Oil
1 egg
1 1/2 cup plain flour

- Butterfly the chicken by cutting into the middle of the thick part of the breast and then cutting horizontally until about a quarter inch to a half inch from the end. Fold the flap out. Do the same to the other half of the breast in the other direction. (Stort way of saying it "potong kasi flat sket la.. untuk balut")
- For the mash potato, rebus ubi dulu sampai masak. Lenyek dengan cream & mayonnaise. Add in chopped parsley and daun ketumbar, Garam, gula, dried oregano - Potong cheese dalam tebal 1cm.
- Balut ayam tue dengan chicken ham kat tengah, kat atas tue letak cheese & ubi lenyek. Boleh guna toothpick so the cheese & ubi lenyek tak keluar.
- Tuang sedikit olive oil kat atas ayam dan bakar dalam oven for 30-35 minutes.
- Campurkan tempung dengan telur. Nak tuang air sket pun boleh . Once the chicken is ready, celup ayam tue dalam bahan tepung and fry it until golden colour.

- Stuffed Chicken :)


MUSHROOM GRAVY
1 tin Kimball classic mushroom soup
300gm minced beef
1 Biji Russet Potato
2 tin Pickled mushroom (Hiris nipis2)
1 biji Bawang Siam ( yang putih tue) – Potong dadu
1 biji tomato besar – potong dadu
1 kotak kecil Cream ½ botol Sos Lada Hitam Life
1 Cawan Air
Dried oregano for seasoning
Finely chopped daun ketumar
Garam Gula Secukup rasa

- Rebus ubi sampai betul2 masak. Blend ubi tue dengan cream & 1 cawan air.
- Masak Kimball Mushroom soup dengan bahan yg dah diblend kat atas nie. Tuang air ikut sukatan tin mushroom soup tue. Bila dah memdidih, masukkan minced beef and biar masak. kemudian, masukkan pickled mushroom, bawang and tomato
- Biar dia masak betul2. masukkan sos lada hitam Life. Biar memdidih
- Tabur sedikit oregano for seasoning and garam secukup rasa.
- Lastly, sebelum nak tutup dapur, tabor hirisan daun ketumbar dan parsley.. kacau betul2.

- My Local Chicken Corden Bleu dressed in Mushroom Gravy. Sided with Potato Salad, Steamed fresh Veges and fried fresh Mushroom with Onion.

Try it :)

Just Another Manic Hectic Monday

Something's wrong with my office server since last week. I was unable to make any updates in Blog. There are a few interesting experiences I would like to share. Thought of saving it in here before I forget what it was :p That's me, quite a forgetful person. Well, I hope this gets updated. What I wanted to share last week Wednesday... before we all had the long break.

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Good morning.. Hah! Tomorrow is the 1st day of Chinese New Year 2008 and the beginning of a LONG holiday for me ;) hehehe. I'm all excited and happy to spend some quality time with my family and relax. We have a few plans lined up for the holidays. Not planning to go on any trip anywhere. Money tadak hai yaar. Let me tell the story once the holidays are over. It's Wednesday today... so, I can most probably update on Monday next week : D

Monday, 4th Feb 2008
It was one of the wackiest days and I spend with my sister, Kak Shida. We got ourselves off from our hectic work and life… made plans to head somewhere, relax and spend some time for ourselves. Mainly to get pleasure from resting and best of all… no work to worry about, no kids running around shouting 'maa maa... maaakkk" (not that they're my kids... but the noise they create can actually cause world war 3), no husbands (except me ya!) I really had a good time. Kak Shida and I were on leave and we made plans to go lepak at Queensbay Mall, do some window shopping and try to catch a movie if there's time. Well, we started our morning with a very delicious, heavy, mouth-watering breakfast at Nasi Kandar Merlin. For your info, Nasi Kandar Merlin is just right at the corner of Union Street, after Maybank. Gosh! I tell you, I recommend that nasi kandar stall to everyone. You really must try it out. Especially if you go there early morning around 8.30am. That’s when the rice and curries are still hot and the dishes are still fresh. There's not much of variety of curries there and all the dishes are really tasty. Especially the fish curry, Ayam masak rempah, ayam goreng crispy and also my favourite.. sambal sotong. I would say, this stall is one of the best Nasi Kandar stall in whole Penang. People from KL and some as far as Singapore will drop by to Merlin for their yummy nasi kandar. Kak Shida told me that her college from KL never misses to stop by at Merlin whenever they're on Penang. After having breakfast at Merlin (you won’t believe this) we actually drove to McD at Green Lane.. hehe. Well, Queensbay only open at 10am right? So, might as well you do something to occupy your time :p Aleh! We actually went there to lepak for a while and have a nive hot cup of coffee and a cool icy chocolate sundae ice cream before we head off to Queensbay. Queensbay - Mad mad Chinese New Year sale. There were discounts up to 80%. I bought a birthday gift for Abah since his birthday is on Valentines Day. OOOoo… And as for me, I got myself a Valentine’s gift too. Hehe ;) Well, dah tak de boyfriend to indulge me, might as well I just indulge myself. Besides, I just wanted to take my mind of what happened to me on Sunday. We stopped by at Nando's for lunch. Kak Shida had a RM40 voucher and we just wanted to use it. I don't prefer Nando's much. Not the kinda tasty food for me. The spiciness is not up to my liking. Well, after all that walking, shopping, eating and chit chatting... we thought of what better way to rest your feet then to head for a movie. Cloverfield… %^$@#&*@ Cloverfield. A very bad decision we made when we decided to watch this movie. Gosh! The movie is completely ridiculous. I will strongly say, this movie is the far worst movie I’ve ever watched. Just imagine, We only managed to stand up watching this movie for 30 minutes and after that we had to run out of the theatre to the nearest toilet... to vomit (there goes my lunch). This is the first time aku tengok wayang boleh pening, sakit kepala dengan muntah... all at the same time... and it's all because of just watching a movie. Sound ridiculous right? But that's the truth. And surprisingly, we were not the only ones. There were actually few other people who walked out of the movie as well. hahaha... I actually saw a girl rubbing her chest probably trying to control herself from vomiting. Well, now I understand what they mean by the term “NO birds eye view” of anything. The whole movie was actually taken using a videocam. So you can imagine how preposterously unstable the movie was, one second you’re looking at his head, the next second you’re actually looking at his legs pulak. This guy who's capturing the movie will run here and there with the camera still on, storming down the stairs with the camera still on… turn here and there. The movie was completely unsteady and it’s not like the usual movie we see and most certainly NOTHING like super hit movie 'Godzilla' or 'Independence day'. If you’ve read the reviewers’ comment about this movie in the CinemaOnline.com you’ll understand what I mean. It’s not suitable to be rated ‘U’ at all la. More suitable to be rated "U will muntah"
Well, the story goes… This is what yang aku sempat tengok la sebelum aku lari kelaur ge muntah kat toilet. There's this guy name 'Hud' and he was capturing his friend’s farewell party when suddenly NYC was attacked by this giant creature. And like any other movie... the monster attacked at night. You will see building collapsing everywhere, huge fireball like someone dropped a bomb. There were even fireballs falling from thr sky like rain. Among all this havoc, tetiba jer, you will see the statue of liberty’s head rolling down the streets where all the heroes and their girlfriends were standing... (Biasa la). Semua kena jadi depan mata hero jer. But then again, this part was consudered abit scary… wey! It was the statue of Liberty. Abis tue.. mula la semua orang lari lari lari.. lari some more.. lari here and there… buildings getting blasted.. Heavy tick smoke covering the streets. Tengah dok lari... suddenly, semua orang dah ada atas bridge… Now I dunno how they got there ok! so pls don't wask me. I'm not quite sure if it was the Manhattan or the Brooklyn Bridge they were on. Just when everyone was on the bridge trying to get their ass out of NYC, tetiba jer dengar macam apa ke benda yang besar kentut… brrrrrooookkkk… Now I assume it was that creature that had created all the havoc in NYC and I suppose menatang tue yang teriak la kot… Hahaha.. tapi bunyi dia memang pelik betol. Hahhh… nie yg aku nak tergelak… lepas terdengar menatang tue teriak je, tetiba ada satu benda hit the bridge and split the bridge into two. Bagi mata aku, nampak macam jejari sotong kurita yang giant nyer. Have you seen the giant octopus in Pirates of the Caribbean? Hehehe... either memang gambar tue or aku dah betol2 pening tak nampak betul-betul. Well what ever it was, I really regret watching it. Wasted RM7 for a ticket and to make the situation worse, the movie actually spoiled the rest of our day. Pening, Muntah dengan tak tahan sungguh sakit kepala. We tried to shake the dizziness off but still cannot help it. Well, we ended up going home at 4.30pm. Sampai rumah jer, aku telan 2 bijik panadol activefast and tido sekejap. Cos memang dah tak boleh tahan pening dengan sakit kepala. What a way to end the day.

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Bang Bang

Sunday, 3rd Feb 2008
I met with an accident in front of USM front exit. Sigh! What a day. I had a superb morning you know… I woke up at 9am… had a lovely healthy breakfast of Roti canai telur with the tarik. Hehehe. A healthy breakfast?? Yeah right Fazi! Anyway, rest the day when so fine and at around 3pm, I went to USM to pick my niece from tuition class. At the exit, there was another car in front of me and I saw him crawling out to the main road. So like any other normal road user, I assumed he was going to get the hell out of my sight and I checked if there’s any incoming vehicle. Just as I was about to turn into the main road… BAMMMM!!#@#@@ That bloody damn car was still there, by the side. He was still struggling to turn into the main road. It just happened so fast, I just realized he was still there after I hit him at the back. I smashed my left headlight and my bumper got knocked in. It was quite fast… hey! You’re trying to turn into the main road… what else you would have done! Yeah yeah! I know, it was kind of my fault too. I should have ensured there was no car before I turn. Sigh! And to make the whole situation worse, I tried to remove some of the shattered glasses from the headlight, and guess what! I accidentally cut myself. It was a small cut but the wound was quite deep.
Alhamdullilah, Abah didn't make a big fuss out of this. He was cool when I told him that evening..
Well, now my car is at the workshop. Have to pick it up later after work. And this must happen a few days before CNY.. Sigh! abis la duit aku!

Friday, February 01, 2008

Marriage

A good story to share on Marriage... I got this short story through email today. It really touched me and actually give me a new meaning in maintening the relationship between your spouse.
How would you want your life to be in 10 years after you're married? It's a question we have to ask ourselves often.

Why am I sharing this with you guys... who knows, I just might save a marriage.

MARRIAGE as said by a husband..

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me
for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife.
The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote,

I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!